I've been pondering lately the importance of knowing ourselves before and during marriage.
The other day I realized how much more I've grown to understand myself since I've been married to my wonderful husband.
Unfortunately, better understanding myself has also caused me to see glaring flaws that I didn't notice before. I'm so blessed to have a husband that doesn't point out my flaws, but gently helps me realize them, and then change, for the better (whether he realizes he helps me do this or not).
As important as it is to continue to get to know ourselves as well as our spouses in marriage, it is almost, if not more, important to know oursleves as well as possible BEFORE we enter the covenant of marriage. This is why "experts" often recommend that couples that marry at a later age tend to have healthier marriages...becuase they KNOW themselves. What their needs and desires are.
Imagine, marrying someone and a few years down the road not only do THEY realize their true hopes and desires, but so do YOU. What if its not in line with your hopes and desire? What if you have different beliefs and values? That will happen in any marriage, but the more we know NOW the less we have to work out later.
So, if you're feeling sorry for yourself that you haven't found that "right" one, its okay. Take this time to get to know yourself, and when the right one comes along, you will have increased your imporovement for marital success by that much more.
