Okay, or not okay?
Let me share a few stories with you:
(retold, but true)
A couple has been married a short time. One night they have a fight over something. The wife decides to go on a run to let out her frustration. While on her run she comes across a fellow jogger, a man. He's a nice, understanding person, as are most people in her community, and she begins to let out her frustrations about her husband to her fellow jogger. Innocent right? Week after week goes by and every now and then she meets this same man on her runs to let out her frustrations. A friendship grows. A friendship subtly turns into something more.
A marriage is ruined.
(personal observation)
Two co-workers, one married, one not, looking for a friendly face to share daily frustrating with. They start to eat lunch together in the work lunch room. They start to eat lunch together in her car. They start to take their lunch somewhere more secluded. Date?
Does anything seem wrong with any of these situations? I've often hear it disputed whether its okay or not to have friends of the opposite sex once you're married. There's nothing wrong with that. You can't be expected to never talk to someone of the opposite sex. Especially in this world where more and more women are in the work place. But what happens to each of these individuals? They often begin to be unfaithful to their partner when they paired off with someone of the opposite sex.
I once had a professor advise us to NEVER be in a situation where we were the only person with someone of the opposite sex. Even if its a crowded place, like a restaurant or a park, if you're paired off, you'll get into trouble. Will this always happen? No. But I personally love my husband and marriage too much to risk it.
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